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		<title>The Power of Performance</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[I received the email below this afternoon, and am re-posting it with permission from Dr. McCune. In it, he emphasizes that activism surrounding Trayvon Martin&#8217;s murder must not be conflated with misogyny. 
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On Wednesday, The Department of Women&#8217;s Studies and American Studies&#8211;along with African-American Studies and TRIOTA&#8211;hosted approximately 100 students, faculty, and staff from across campus [...]<p><p><a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com/2012/04/06/the-power-of-performance/">The Power of Performance</a> -- Originally posted at <a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com">The Angry Black Woman</a></p></p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I received the email below this afternoon, and am re-posting it with permission from <a href="http://amst.umd.edu/People/mccune.htm">Dr. McCune</a>. In it, he emphasizes that activism surrounding Trayvon Martin&#8217;s murder must not be conflated with misogyny. </p>
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<p style="padding-left: 30px">On Wednesday, The Department of Women&#8217;s Studies and American Studies&#8211;along with African-American Studies and <a href="http://www.triotaumd.org/">TRIOTA</a>&#8211;hosted approximately 100 students, faculty, and staff from across campus to discuss the meaning of the Trayvon Martin tragedy and its aftermath. Together, a UMD Theatre Ensemble,  Dr. Jo Paoletti, Dr. Damion Thomas, Fareed Hayat, JD (The People&#8217;s Law Firm), Dr. Sheri Parks, Gabriel Peoples, Dr. Jo Richardson, and myself gave rousing remarks that facilitated a larger discussion&#8211;which was complex, rich, emotional, powerful, and even tense at points. Students asked rich questions and gave personal and political responses which kept the event grounded in the material aspects of racial profiling, racial injustice, and the complex workings of race and gender, sexuality, and class. This was a successful event and as the organizer, I am grateful to all who supported and participated. The event was taped by the College of ARHU videographer and will be available soon for pedagogical uses and our departmental archives.</p>
<p>After the event, there was a Vigil held at Nyumburu Cultural Center. THIS is where the power of performance was most on display. The national &#8220;1000 Campus Vigil for Trayvon&#8221; collective was invited to campus to organize the vigil. With the vigil, also came a collective of men from various religious and political backgrounds to speak to the significance of this tragedy. Unfortunately, there was a range of bodies, but not a range of perspectives.  I stood&#8211;with several colleagues and students&#8211;at this makeshift campus rally, where men from the Nation of Islam, New Black Panther Party, and other entities lamented the loss of Trayvon Martin as the loss of another black man from the household. One man suggested that such losses, left young boys to be raised by their mothers, teaching them how to be more like women than men. As if no alternative outcomes were available; or, to say that being like mommy was somehow marked more problematic than being like daddy. I looked over at one of my students almost in tears and seeing others ready to walk away.  Feeling as if I was swimming in a sea of something akin to black masculine truculence, I HAD TO DO SOMETHING!!</p>
<p>I moved from within the crowd toward the front of the &#8220;rally,&#8221; where I saw Dr. Ron Ziegler who is the Director of the Nyumburu Cultural Center. I asked him, &#8220;what are you going to do to salvage what was just said to our young women, to these young people?&#8221; He gestured for me to speak to the guy who had spewed such rhetorical venom. Before I could say &#8220;umm,&#8221; he had gestured for him to come over. Quickly, I postured&#8211;knowing that my queer affect may be read as unworthy of his respect, attention, etc. Like clockwork, I turned on my performance of masculine bravado&#8211;learned largely while in the field talking to traditionally masculine men who practiced sexual discretion&#8211; and asked him if I could speak. &#8220;Yeah brotha, whats your name?&#8221; I reply, &#8220;Professor McCune.&#8221; And of course, he would then introduce me as &#8220;Professor McCOON.&#8221; The name I love to hate.</p>
<p>As I walked up to the mic I knew that I would have to call on the baptist preacher in me&#8211;as that rhetorical style would be the only one that these men were going to listen to. You know the style&#8230; the same voice that probably instilled these &#8220;nuclear&#8221; family politics and secured this framework that policing black women&#8217;s bodies was the only way to have black (male)community progress. So I began to affirm their anger and angst, echoing &#8220;It is true that Trayvon Martin is dead today because his body was being read as black and male and deemed suspicious; It is true that justice has not been served.&#8221; And from there, I departed from where they may have thought I was going to go&#8230;.</p>
<p>The rest of this intervention was <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9B-PAvBNPU8&amp;feature=share">surprisingly</a> recorded, by a student who happened to be in the audience. </p>
<p>Indeed, Lorde&#8217;s famous words speak precisely to this experience, &#8220;When I dare to be powerful &#8211; to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.&#8221;</p>
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<p>GO DR. MCCUNE!! What a powerful intervention in an overly common script in black radical communities. </p>
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		<title>Strong People Don&#8217;t Have Needs &amp; Other Myths That Can Kill You</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 13 Feb 2012 19:41:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>karnythia</dc:creator>
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I’ve been tweeting all morning about #rapeculture &#038; #abuseculture, and someone asked me what I meant when I referred to Strong People Myths. I think some/most of us are familiar with the Strong Black Woman Trope right? Right. For those that are unfamiliar with it, it can best be summed up as the idea that [...]<p><p><a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com/2012/02/13/strong-people-dont-have-needs-other-myths-that-can-kill-you/">Strong People Don&#8217;t Have Needs &#038; Other Myths That Can Kill You</a> -- Originally posted at <a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com">The Angry Black Woman</a></p></p>
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<p>I’ve been tweeting all morning about #rapeculture &#038; #abuseculture, and someone asked me what I meant when I referred to Strong People Myths. I think some/most of us are familiar with the Strong Black Woman Trope right? Right. For those that are unfamiliar with it, it can best be summed up as the idea that black women are so strong they don’t need help, protection, care, or concern. It’s a racialized super human idea that leaves little to no room for real black women with real problems. That myth contributes to black women experiencing higher than average domestic violence rates, &#038; an increased rate of sexual assaults. It is literally killing black women, but it persists &#038; is often referenced as a positive thing despite it denying the basic humanity of black women.</p>
<p>Similar myths flourish inside rape culture &#038; abuse culture and contribute to ideas like “Men can’t be raped”, “It’s her fault for staying with him after he hit her”, “She/he/they didn’t fight back so they must have wanted it” or (and this one is always guaranteed to make me want to throw things), “I would never be in that position” during discussions of domestic violence or rape. The idea that strong people are safe people is perpetuated relentlessly throughout our culture &#038; it ignores not only the reality that anyone can be victimized, but also that it takes strength to survive. It feeds into external &#038; internal victim blaming when people insist that only the weak can be prey. The One True Way To Be Strong So You Are Safe idea is comforting right up until it backfires on people who are victimized.</p>
<p>Meanwhile rapists &#038; abusers have a free pass to continue their behavior since we propagate this idea that only the strong deserve to survive. They face no/limited consequences, get society to do the dirty work of A) blaming the victim for not being stronger &#038; getting the victim to self blame, all while seeking out new victims. It’s easy to say people should have known better before you think about the fact that rapists &#038; abusers don’t usually advertise their intent. Instead they rely on wit, charm, &#038; social pressure to help them find, isolate, &#038; assault (sometime repeatedly) their victims. Then when victims seek help, they know their victims will run right into the Strong People Don’t Get Hurt Myths. Instant insulation from prosecution or social repercussions with the added bonus that the victim will forever doubt themselves!</p>
<p>It’s a sickening set of tropes, and yet it is popular &#038; often lauded as though eternal strength is a reasonable or logical expectation of human beings. It’s not of course, and yes, abusers &#038; rapists are not mutually exclusive or gender specific roles. But they are things that humans do to other humans. That’s it. Every human has needs, desires, wants that they are trying to have met. And everyone is vulnerable to harm whether it be from a stranger or a partner. To pretend that people can be (or should be) omniscient, or that they can’t ever be overpowered is to deny the humanity of survivors. It’s bad enough that people will be assaulted, but to have society continue the victimization is simply ridiculous and detrimental to everyone.</p>
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		<title>An Open Letter From A Black Woman</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 24 Jan 2012 20:49:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>karnythia</dc:creator>
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I hurt myself today. I was on Twitter talking about rape culture &#38; this triggering victim blaming post at VSB. And it triggered the hell out of me so I&#8217;m just going to say up front that this is coming from that place. See, I said the things I needed to say, but now I [...]<p><p><a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com/2012/01/24/an-open-letter-from-a-black-woman/">An Open Letter From A Black Woman</a> -- Originally posted at <a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com">The Angry Black Woman</a></p></p>
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<p>I hurt myself today. I was on Twitter talking about rape culture &amp; this triggering victim blaming <a href="http://verysmartbrothas.com/rape-responsibility-and-the-fine-line-between-victim-blaming-and-common-sense/">post</a> at VSB. And it triggered the hell out of me so I&#8217;m just going to say up front that this is coming from that place. See, I said the things I needed to say, but now I have to say something else &amp; it is too long for twitter. And although I am directing this specifically to black men, overall this is something I feel needs to be said to everyone. Black women (like me) are more likely to be victims of domestic violence and sexual assault than almost any other group (the numbers are also incredibly high for NDN women), and we are out here on the front lines every day. Black men expect us to have their backs in battles with institutionalized racism. And mostly we do. But, we&#8217;re not seeing a whole lot of return on that investment when it comes to institutionalized racialized misogyny. And that fucking hurts.</p>
<p>Yes, on an individual level some of you are right there in the trenches with us. But some of you? Man look, I know life is hard for everyone of color on some level, but we shouldn&#8217;t have to worry about being safe from men in our communities as well as men outside our communities. And yes, men are victimized too. I know that, but I&#8217;m a woman and I&#8217;m going to speak from my experience in this post. Because here&#8217;s the thing, it&#8217;s easy to say that women should know better, do better at staying away from bad guys. But, it&#8217;s not like they&#8217;re wearing a sign around their necks. And often those guys have friends who are decent dudes. So we assume that they are decent too until they show us something different.</p>
<p>Sometimes they show us early enough &amp; lightly enough that we get out of the situation basically unscathed. But sometimes? Sometimes your boy that you know ain&#8217;t shit that&#8217;s been dogging some broad out? Yeah, he proceeds to fuck that broad up the first time she catches wind of a problem. And instead of jumping bad at him, too many of you start blaming her. That&#8217;s a terrible thing to do. And you know it. Because your boy has already told enough jokes, or said enough off shit that you wouldn&#8217;t let him near your sister, your baby cousin, or your best friend. So, why is he still your boy?</p>
<p>Real talk, I have some female friends that are messy who don&#8217;t do half the shit I see some dudes out here doing, and I keep them away from my guy friends. Because they&#8217;re messy &amp; I don&#8217;t want anyone I care about to get hurt. If I could I&#8217;d warn off some other folks too. But my friends aren&#8217;t rapists or abusers. People like that don&#8217;t get to stay in my life. Some of you are friends with dudes who are both. Hell, some of you reading this (whether you admit it to yourself or not) are guilty of those behaviors. And while I&#8217;m all for redemption or whatever, I really need to know how much shit has to happen to black women at the hands of black men, before y&#8217;all start checking each other? What does it take for men of color to really collectively dig into confronting their privilege &amp; misogyny? We know some of you hate us, now we want to know what those of you who don&#8217;t hate us are going to do about it?</p>
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		<title>How To Write About Black Women</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 18 Jan 2012 04:08:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>karnythia</dc:creator>
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First, state your credentials. It&#8217;s okay to be a woman, but not a black woman. Their lived experiences are immaterial and can be dismissed as merely anecdotal. Make it clear that you are not racist or sexist, you are merely concerned about their plight. What plight? Well, pick one. Or several. Marriage, children, lack of [...]<p><p><a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com/2012/01/18/how-to-write-about-black-women/">How To Write About Black Women</a> -- Originally posted at <a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com">The Angry Black Woman</a></p></p>
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<p>First, state your credentials. It&#8217;s okay to be a woman, but not a black woman. Their lived experiences are immaterial and can be dismissed as merely anecdotal. Make it clear that you are not racist or sexist, you are merely concerned about their plight. What plight? Well, pick one. Or several. Marriage, children, lack of the above, too much education, not enough education, welfare, whatever you think will sell. It only matters that you highlight their troublesome natures. Whatever it is, you must be sure to make it clear that they aren&#8217;t like other women. They are failing to perform in some way that affects the whole of society, even if you can&#8217;t quite explain how or why their personal lives are public property. Further, rely heavily on the idea of research that shows the problem is a problem. Never mention exactly when that research was done, or who were the subjects of it. Too much context may unnecessarily complicate the conversation.</p>
<p>Utilize stereotypes whenever possible, preferably ones that tie into the Mammy, Jezebel, or Sapphire tropes. Describe black women in ways that play up their sexuality and remove their humanity. After all they are Other, so their skin is a food stuff, the space between their thighs is mysterious, and they have never ever been innocent. No need to mention virginity or purity, even when speaking of black female infants, your focus must be on their sexuality. If you are speaking of black mothers make it clear that they need guidance, financial support, or salvation. What salvation? Well that all depends on whether they work too little and thus are on welfare, or work too much and thus are neglecting their children. There is no point at which they can balance work and family, because again they are Other and that is not possible for them. They are emasculating and thus unworthy of relationships, or the key to being masculine with their all knowing sexuality that is present from birth. Unrapeable, they can be trusted to raise any children but their own, and are sexually available until they become sexless.</p>
<p>They exist to be support systems, whether for men of all colors or women of every color but black. No need to mention their needs, hopes, dreams, or concerns. They have none, even if they do occasionally speak of themselves as real people with feelings. Their voices are too loud, too uneducated, or simply too aggressive. They are always angry about something, but their feelings aren&#8217;t real so they don&#8217;t matter. Be sure to specify how reasonable you are in the face of their unreasonable behavior. Write of how you studied them at a safe distance, while proclaiming that some of your closest friends are black women. No need to know anything about those close friends, but their names since all that matters is that you have them as proof that you know your subject, and are not racist or sexist.</p>
<p>Contrast them with women of other races, always making sure to highlight that other women are real women, while black women are simply black. Feel free to make blanket statements about their religious beliefs, educational levels, income levels, and family dynamics. All of it is true because you say it is, and you are the expert in black women, not any actual black women. If they are offended by your words, remind them of your credentials and refuse to engage in a conversation with them until they can be less emotional. Point to their tone as a reason to doubt the veracity of their experiences. After all they are only black women and thus they know nothing, own nothing, and are worth nothing but what you say they are.
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		<title>Dear White Women Who Think You Mean Well,</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 13 Jan 2012 03:03:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>karnythia</dc:creator>
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I’m about to get in my feelings as a black mother about this bullshit unsolicited advice to Blue Ivy Carter. I freely admit that I do not give even a tiny bit of a fuck about whatever literary conceits are about to be defended as part of justifying it. Because this letter was not written [...]<p><p><a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com/2012/01/12/dear-white-women-who-think-you-mean-well/">Dear White Women Who Think You Mean Well,</a> -- Originally posted at <a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com">The Angry Black Woman</a></p></p>
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<p>I’m about to get in my feelings as a black mother about this bullshit <a href="http://www.good.is/post/unsolicited-advice-for-blue-ivy-carter-growing-up-as-the-girl-of-beyonce-and-jay-z/">unsolicited advice</a> to Blue Ivy Carter. I freely admit that I do not give even a tiny bit of a fuck about whatever literary conceits are about to be defended as part of justifying it. Because this letter was not written in a vacuum. This letter was not written out f any genuine concern for her health or safety. This letter was little more than a stunt that used a child of color &amp; her parents to bolster a career. Yes I am sure she will say she meant no harm or disrespect. That she was trying to say good things to Blue Ivy, because she wants to help. Some will likely even say that her message was positive &amp; for the best. Guess what?</p>
<p>We do not exist in a world where mothers of color can walk around without someone passing judgement on their right to be mothers simply because of the color of their skin. We do not live in a world where a woman of color becoming a mother is supported or respected. We do not exist in a world where white women who think they know best have not harmed families of color. We live in a world where white women often decide to “rescue” children of color by taking them from their homes, their cultures, and their mothers. So when a white woman decides she is “helping” by addressing a child of color she does not know as though her words will have any value to that child? I am already wary.</p>
<p>The fact that she is speaking to a newborn about topics that are emphatically none of her damned business &amp; are in fact the province of that child’s parents just makes it even more offensive. It is a curious sort of racist White Woman’s Burden logic that allows you to engage with mothers of color in ways that would be patently offensive to you if the tables were turned. I have seen white mothers of children of color get deeply offended when conditioner and oil are suggested as remedies for the “unmanageable” hair of their child. Often that suggestion comes while they stare at the hair of our children and want to know how we get it to behave.</p>
<p>Meanwhile you often feel entitled to speak to us of everything from religion to sex as though we do not have our own morals to impart to our children. I have had my own share of “helpful” white women who do not know me, but who feel quite comfortable questioning my parenting decisions on every front. Over the last 12 years I have had unsolicited input from those women on everything from what I feed my son with food allergies, to how much responsibility I give to my son with special needs. These are not white women who are my friends, not women who my children know well, these are not even white women who have set foot in my house.</p>
<p>Instead they are little more than strangers (or in some cases employees at a child care facility) with little direct contact with my children. But they feel their input is worthwhile because I am black and a mother, and clearly I can’t know what I’m doing. Here is a thought for those white women who feel the need to approach mothers of color, or their children with unsolicited advice. Don’t. Really, just strangle whatever urge it is that drives you to behave so offensively, and practice the fine art of minding your own damned business. You are not our elders, our partners, or in fact in part of our lives. You do not know what is best for our children, or how we should raise them to survive in a racist society that allows your children safety &amp; security that our children will never know. Spend more time teaching your kids (and yourself) how to engage with people of color as people, and less time finding ways to stroke your egos by attacking ours.</p>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 10 Dec 2011 21:13:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>karnythia</dc:creator>
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This is a Facebook message I just found hidden in my inbox (sometimes Facebook&#8217;s habit of hiding messages works out in a person&#8217; favor),  from someone named Cameron Baird. I know people usually blot out the names of people who say ignorant things on Facebook. But, so much of my life went on display [...]<p><p><a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com/2011/12/10/2453/"></a> -- Originally posted at <a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com">The Angry Black Woman</a></p></p>
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<p>This is a Facebook message I just found hidden in my inbox (sometimes Facebook&#8217;s habit of hiding messages works out in a person&#8217; favor),  from someone named Cameron Baird. I know people usually blot out the names of people who say ignorant things on Facebook. But, so much of my life went on display after Salon picked up my post about my medical abortion that I don&#8217;t feel like letting people like this hide from their words. For those using screen readers the image is a racist comment about me &#038; my appearance and my history of medical care that reads:</p>
<p>[Cameron Baird</p>
<p>You the lying nigger bitch that wanted a free abortion? What I can't figure out is how your ugly ass got pregnant!!!! Your old man blind? Fuck you you lying cunt. How many babies have you left on the floor so far?]</p>
<p>This isn&#8217;t the only message like this one I&#8217;ve gotten, &#038; for a long time I wasn&#8217;t going to post any of them. But time &#038; distance seem to have thickened my skin up a little bit. This is what happens when you are a black woman who blogs about her life &#038; people don&#8217;t like what you have to say.</p>
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		<title>On Police Brutality, Living While Of Color, &amp; Why Brutality At OWS isn&#8217;t Shocking</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Nov 2011 04:03:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>karnythia</dc:creator>
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I’ve seen a lot of posts talking about OWS, police brutality, race, gender, &#38; intersectionality. Many of those posts include links to the famous stories of police brutality. And those stories are important &#38; should be told. But, by only talking about those stories I worry that we’re giving the impression that police brutality is [...]<p><p><a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com/2011/11/23/on-police-brutality-living-while-of-color-why-brutality-at-ows-isnt-shocking/">On Police Brutality, Living While Of Color, &#038; Why Brutality At OWS isn&#8217;t Shocking</a> -- Originally posted at <a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com">The Angry Black Woman</a></p></p>
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<p>I’ve seen a lot of posts talking about OWS, police brutality, race, gender, &amp; intersectionality. Many of those posts include links to the famous stories of police brutality. And those stories are important &amp; should be told. But, by only talking about those stories I worry that we’re giving the impression that police brutality is relatively rare in communities of color. I’ve posted in the past about the cop who called me a nigger when I was 12 &amp; the time my (then) 13 year old husband was beaten up by a cop. But, those weren’t our only run ins with abusive police officers. Experience has taught me to worry about the cops. I think of them as a risk to navigate more than I think of them as people who are here to protect me or my family. My husband &amp; I have already had the talks with our oldest son about how to act when he’s stopped by the cops. Notice I said when he’s stopped.</p>
<p>That’s because I have been stopped while doing everything from taking a walk to grocery shopping to helping someone move. My father in law runs a Medicar service that primarily caters to the elderly who need help getting from their homes to doctor’s appointments. My husband used to ride along to help him out, since it’s a family business. One day they were stopped by the police because some cop decided a white van leaving a hospital on the West Side of Chicago fit the description of a tan truck that had been involved in a robbery in the Loop. They forced them out of the vehicle at gunpoint while a bunch of elderly people watched &amp; worried. When it became clear that they didn’t fit the description? The cops told them they were free to go and left. That’s it. No apology, no consideration for all the people in the vehicle, but then everyone involved was a POC.</p>
<p>Matter of fact, let me tell you about <a href="http://web.archive.org/web/20100120025739/http://cbs2chicago.com/local/seizure.arrest.kourtney.2.1248626.html">Kourtney Wilson</a>. I’ve known her since she was a teenager. She’s a nice young lady who unfortunately has lupus. Two years ago she had a seizure, her roommate dialed 911 &amp; when the paramedics came (despite being told about her health status), they manhandled her &amp; had the police arrest her.  As if that wasn’t bad enough they took her all over the place (two different precinct houses &amp; two different hospitals) so that she was denied medical treatment for 9 hours. Think about that for a second. NINE HOURS after she had the seizure she finally got the help she needed. And that’s a case that only made the local news &amp; the blogosphere before vanishing into the Wayback machine to be dug up by people like me with a reason to know her name. Imagine being afraid to call an ambulance when someone you love needs one because they could be arrested for being sick. Imagine being killed in your own home like Kathryn Johnston or Aiyana Jones. Imagine being harassed or having a gun pulled on you just because you’re going about your day while being of color.</p>
<p>We don’t have to be at a protest, or actually fit the description of a suspect to have a negative interaction with the police. Officers like <a href="http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2010-06-28/news/ct-met-burge-trial-0629-20100628_1_burge-chicago-police-cmdr-special-cook-county-prosecutors">John Burge</a> have tortured POC into confessing to crimes they didn’t commit &amp; gotten away with it for decades. We know the police cannot be trusted. So, to see the police using pepper spray on protestors, or going out dressed in riot gear to evict them from encampments? Not at all a shock. I know some will say “Well now we know, &amp; we’re trying to fix it for everyone” but you’ll pardon me if I don’t buy that the changes OWS is fighting for will extend to POC. Not when every time someone brings up race and OWS there is invariably a “It’s not about race, it’s about class. Why are you being divisive?” response from multiple people. POC of every class have to be concerned with the possibility of police brutality, &amp; until OWS addresses that reality, how can it represent the entire 99%?</p>
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		<title>On Being An Actual Nigger Woman</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 07 Oct 2011 03:05:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>karnythia</dc:creator>
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I can remember the very first time someone called me a nigger. I was 12 years old and in the 8th grade. I was walking from the gifted program at Kenwood high school in Chicago back to Kozminski, my grammar school. I wasn’t alone, there were 5 of us that walked that way every day. [...]<p><p><a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com/2011/10/06/on-being-an-actual-nigger-woman/">On Being An Actual Nigger Woman</a> -- Originally posted at <a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com">The Angry Black Woman</a></p></p>
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<p>I can remember the very first time someone called me a nigger. I was 12 years old and in the 8th grade. I was walking from the gifted program at Kenwood high school in Chicago back to Kozminski, my grammar school. I wasn’t alone, there were 5 of us that walked that way every day. Two boys and three girls. All kind of nerdy, but with delusions of coolness ahead in high school. And every day these two cops stopped us, and made us late getting to our regular school. They always asked the same questions, and we always gave the same answers. This day, for some reason or another they were really dragging out the BS &#038; one of the guys with me made a comment about them making us late every day.</p>
<p>One of the cops was a white male who always seemed super angry that we were coming from the advanced program, and he took Larry’s offhand comment as backtalk. Next thing you know he’s got the boys on the ground, and is talking about arresting them. Being me (I was born a smart ass know it all), I said they hadn’t committed any crimes, and that he couldn’t do that to them. His response? He shoved his hand in my face and yelled “You uppity little nigger, don’t you talk to me that way!” It was loud. Loud enough that it drew the attention of an adult in the store on the corner. He came out to see what was going on, and the cops took off.</p>
<p>We’d never told anyone about the daily harassment, and while we were explaining ourselves to the store’s owner he told us to go to school, and tell our principal everything. Our school was only another few blocks away, so we booked it thinking that the cops might show up again. They didn’t. In fact we never saw them again.</p>
<p>I’d like to say they realized the error of their ways, but I suspect that it had more to do with us telling our story, and the principal calling our parents, Operation PUSH, the local alderman, and the precinct captain. Probably in that order, and probably with a threat to involve the media. That wasn’t the last time someone called me a nigger, it wasn’t even the scariest time someone said it to me. But, it was the time I remember the most vividly, because it came from an adult that we were supposed to be able to trust.</p>
<p>So, when people claim that Woman is The Nigger of The World? I want them to remember that not every woman is going to be called a nigger. Trust me, if I could give that word up I would, I certainly don’t want it. But I can’t, and I refuse to pretend that what happened to me could happen to a white woman.  I can’t even give a rough estimate of how many times I’ve been called a nigger. Online it happens fairly often from people I’ve pissed off &#038; trolls. Offline, people are less willing to say it to my face, but I know it’s still getting said. I have no idea why it is so important to be able to use that word for some people, but they really want to use it. Okay. Use it.</p>
<p>But, be prepared for possible consequences. I don’t care if you were joking, your black friend is okay with it, you didn’t mean it the black way, or whatever other dumb shit you want to tell yourself to justify it. At best? We’ll all know you’re untrustworthy as an ally, and we’ll probably assume you’re racist. (Trust me, no one gives a shit about your intent when you’re spouting racial slurs.) At worst? Well…you should have health and dental. Really good health &#038; dental. Racism can be expensive.
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		<title>Check your BC, peeps!</title>
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		<dc:creator>Maria</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Several brands of birth control pills are being recalled because they, uh, don&#8217;t work right. The brands included are:

Cyclafem 7/7/7
Cyclafem 1/35
Emoquette
Gildess FE 1.5/30
Gildess FE 1/20
Orsythia
Previfem
Tri-Previfem

Basically, they&#8217;re labelled wrong, so you can still get pregnant even if you are taking them correctly. Jesus.
I&#8217;m a little WTF over some of the media on this, like:
The error means [...]<p><p><a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com/2011/09/20/check-your-bc-peeps/">Check your BC, peeps!</a> -- Originally posted at <a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com">The Angry Black Woman</a></p></p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Several brands of birth control pills are being recalled because they, uh, don&#8217;t work right. The <a href="http://healthland.time.com/2011/09/19/birth-control-pills-recalled-for-packaging-error/#ixzz1YSjYDMnu">brands </a>included are:</p>
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<li>Cyclafem 7/7/7</li>
<li>Cyclafem 1/35</li>
<li>Emoquette</li>
<li>Gildess FE 1.5/30</li>
<li>Gildess FE 1/20</li>
<li>Orsythia</li>
<li>Previfem</li>
<li>Tri-Previfem</li>
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<p>Basically, they&#8217;re labelled wrong, so you can still get pregnant even if you are taking them correctly. Jesus.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m a little WTF over some of the media on this, <a href="http://www.reuters.com/article/2011/09/19/us-qualitest-recall-idUSTRE78I5LZ20110919">like</a>:</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px">The error means the daily regimen for the oral contraceptives may be incorrect and could leave women at risk of an unplanned pregnancy, it said. <strong>The defects do not pose any immediate health risks.</strong></p>
<p>What.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px"><strong>The defects do not pose any immediate health risks.</strong></p>
<p><em><strong></strong>What.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px"><strong>The defects do not pose any immediate health risks.</strong></p>
<p><em>WHAT</em><strong><em>.</em></strong></p>
<p>Um, <a href="http://www.sc.edu/healthycarolina/pdf/facstaffstu/safety/PregnancyAndDomesticViolence.pdf">hello</a>? Homicide during pregnancy is one of the leading causes of pregnant women&#8217;s deaths. Rates of domestic violence during an unplanned pregnancy are higher than they are for a planned pregnancy, and some abusers actually begin escalating their abuse when they find out their partner is pregnant. So, yeah, <a href="http://www.cnn.com/2011/09/16/health/birth-control-recall/index.html">actually</a>, <a href="http://www.reporternews.com/news/2011/sep/19/drug-company-recalls-birth-control-pills/">fucking </a>up 1.4 <a href="http://theweek.com/article/index/219408/americas-massive-birth-control-recall-the-risk-of-unintended-pregnancies">million </a>packages OVER THE <a href="http://jezebel.com/5841319/the-massive-birth-control-recall-and-how-it-affects-you">COURSE </a>OF THE LAST YEAR is actually KIND OF SERIOUS, particularly when you consider that these are, AFAIK, generics, so if you need an emergency replacement your pharmacist may have to offer you a brand-name which may have a higher co-pay&#8230; if you have insurance at all. Here&#8217;s what some pharmacists are doing what they <a href="http://www.wreg.com/news/wreg-birth-control-recall-makes-for-difficult-refills-20110919,0,2269571.story">can</a>:</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px">Pharmacists are trying to call all patients who bought the recalled lots within the last year. </p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px">They then try to contact the patients’ doctors to approve a replacement.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px">Since the recalled pills are all generic medication, often the replacement will be the brand name version of the same pill.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px">“The brand name drugs are going to have much higher co-pays, which is why people go for the generics anyway, for the most part. And it’s going to be whether the insurance company acknowledges the problem and whether they’ll take care of it,” Oliver said.</p>
<p>Play <a href="http://www.cnn.com/2011/09/16/health/birth-control-recall/index.html">safe</a>, all. </p>
<p>ETA: Be careful reading some of the comments to the above links. There are some REALLY hostile men&#8217;s rights trolls in them, particularly the CNN one, who are claiming women will use this to screw over men. </p>
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I wrote this last night while we were talking about this NSFW picture on Tumblr and all the cultural connotations imbedded in the idea of the knowing sexually available black woman teaching the young white man. We got off into sex positivity, the racially specific messages about sex that WOC often get inside their communities [...]<p><p><a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com/2011/08/25/on-consent-sex-positivity-cultures-of-color-after-colonization/">On Consent, Sex Positivity, &#038; Cultures of Color after Colonization</a> -- Originally posted at <a href="http://theangryblackwoman.com">The Angry Black Woman</a></p></p>
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<p>I wrote this last night while we were talking about this NSFW <a href="http://30.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lq1mkxbtk71qe59oxo1_500.jpg">picture</a> on Tumblr and all the cultural connotations imbedded in the idea of the knowing sexually available black woman teaching the young white man. We got off into sex positivity, the racially specific messages about sex that WOC often get inside their communities as well as what is projected on them from the outside and what all of that really means for us. Then we started talking about consent &amp; how it has been an illusion for so many WOC throughout history. One of my great grandmothers was a quadroon out of Louisiana, and while I&#8217;m pretty she was at the base of all the anti sex messages I got from my grandmother, I can only imagine what led her there &amp; what led my grandmother to where she ended up. She could run numbers, but my grandmother always made sex sound like a chore. So, this is a rough approximation of something I want to expand on later. </p>
<p>Looking back I don’t think they could conceive of actually owning their bodies in any meaningful way. I come from a family of beautiful women with hourglass figures (and before someone starts in about arrogance, I am not trying to be a shit, it is just our reality is one where we tend to fall into that range of physical symmetry that American culture prizes), who spent a lot of time fleeing or hiding or passing as men if they could in order to travel safely and those were skills and lessons that they passed on to their girl children. I struggle with the idea that my body belongs to me, and that’s after some legal protections (however weak and ill applied) for black women were codified. Imagine being an attractive WOC with not even that hint of protection.</p>
<p>Further, imagine a reality where rape isn’t even a concept that applies to you. A white man wants your body? Well shit, that’s what it’s there for so lay down girl so he can do his business and move on. A black man wants you? So? Be grateful someone wants you. After all, what other purpose can your body serve in this world when it looks like that? You’re too sexy to be sexless, &amp; you’re not allowed any power including the power to say no. At least not here in your home. So, what do you do? You run. North to that mythical promised land of freedom. Only you’re not free there either. Not really. Different standards apply &amp; maybe having a husband is some protection, but him being your husband after a lifetime of sexual trauma isn’t the same as whatever things might have been if your body ever belonged to you. And so you teach your daughters that sex is a thing they must do to appease men, but you separated from yourself to get through what happened &amp; you try to teach them how to do that out front so they won’t hurt like you do. Maybe it helps, maybe it doesn’t but either way you’re trying to make the best of an awful reality. And they learn their own version of the lesson that they try to pass on to their daughters. Because a black girl child isn’t safe any where &amp; so the cycle begins again only you’re further North, or education is a protection that marriage was not, or your daughters have learned not to feel, or whatever else you think might make things better.</p>
<p>Now here I stand, the last of a line of women who never owned their bodies with my own scars. I lost the right to my body before I ever knew it was mine &amp; I have the education, the husband, the law, &amp; still none of it made consent matter as much as it should in my life either. So I teach my sons about enthusiastic consent &amp; hope that works out for someone else’s daughter. And I can enjoy sex, albeit with a heavy dose of shame at times, and much coaxing from a patient man who can live with the fact that sometimes I cannot be touched at all. But I still don’t know what consent looks like without baggage, because when I cannot bear touching I will fight like a rabid dog to keep hand off me and my body to myself even though I don’t really believe it is mine and mine alone. That’s our rape culture. Consent is an illusion, the law doesn’t really protect us, &amp; the risk of enjoying sex might be the thing that turns around to bite out our souls when it blows up in our face.</p>
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