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This is a Facebook message I just found hidden in my inbox (sometimes Facebook’s habit of hiding messages works out in a person’ favor), from someone named Cameron Baird. I know people usually blot out the names of people who say ignorant things on Facebook. But, so much of my life went on display after Salon picked up my post about my medical abortion that I don’t feel like letting people like this hide from their words. For those using screen readers the image is a racist comment about me & my appearance and my history of medical care that reads:

[Cameron Baird

You the lying nigger bitch that wanted a free abortion? What I can't figure out is how your ugly ass got pregnant!!!! Your old man blind? Fuck you you lying cunt. How many babies have you left on the floor so far?]

This isn’t the only message like this one I’ve gotten, & for a long time I wasn’t going to post any of them. But time & distance seem to have thickened my skin up a little bit. This is what happens when you are a black woman who blogs about her life & people don’t like what you have to say.

24 comments to

  • occhiblu

    I’m sorry that this is happening to you and that you have to put up with it, even if you’re finding it easier to do from a bit of distance. You shouldn’t have to deal with it at all.

  • Redsparkletea

    This is horrible. I hope that this person gets identified in real life and has all the hatemail in the world delivered to his house…that and a few pizzas.

  • Cluisanna

    Well what is there to be expected from someone who says such wonderful things about himself as “I really don’t like political correctness.”
    I reported him, I guess you have too. It’s the only thing one can do, isn’t it? He doesn’t sound like the kind of person that would understand anything you have to say.

  • Rys

    Karynthia, I’m so sorry that you and every other woman is subjected to such ugly abuse, and that you and every other black person is subjected to such ugly racism. I don’t know how Cameron Baird managed to make it this far in life without collapsing into a mass of cancerous protoplasm. I’m posting this on FB, in hopes of raising understanding. Peace.

  • whimsicalmusing

    I just threw up in my mouth. What a disgusting waste sentience. If you don’t mind, do you have a link to the Salon article as well? I didn’t know it was posted and I’d like to read it.

      • whimsicalmusing

        ? Are you suggesting that I suck it up or Karynthia? If your random comment was directed at me, well, okay…? Yawn. I’m guessing this is some sort of bait for you to troll but I’m afraid your attempts are wasted on someone who could care less.

        As for the link down below of the charming individual who sent that message, once again I say what a waste and what a shame. That people like that truly believe the hateful rhetoric they spew is almost unreal. I suspect that even if he was banned he’d returned to troll again, living in a neat bubble and decrying how his free speech was stifled and choked down by politically correct liberal censorship.

  • whimsicalmusing

    NM, found it. Still disgusted with humanity.

  • Sam

    Tall white guy again… I just don’t know what to think or say. What is wrong with people like that? The only think I can think of is it’s some entry in the DSM-4, or it should be.

  • maty roberts

    So sorry that you are experiencing such horrific posts. Be encouraged. You are a David beating on the heads of ignorance. You enlightens your followers with your knowledge and posts. Hang in there. You are tough; you are strong. I pray that your enermies fall in their own pit; and that they become confounded and put to an open shame. AMEN and so be it.

  • maty roberts

    I pray that all of your enermies be confounded and put to an open shame. Amen and so be it.

  • I am so sorry that you – or anyone – has to deal with this. I remain amazed that people could read that post and be angry with YOU.

    You lost your baby that day – a baby you SO obviously wanted. It was so clearly a post about medical mistreatment that nearly cost your other babies their Mommy. How anyone could read what you wrote and get to this – I just – I don’t…

    Words fail me. I am so sorry.

  • Redsparkletea

    also, not shocked at all that he has black friends.

  • Folks get so brave when they can send messages across the interwebs. But seriously, this is a specimen of a true low-life. I would NOT lose any sleep over this!

  • Lori

    This is an example of what happens when “class warriors ignore race”. I for one hope these idiots keep coming out of the cracks like this…thank you for posting. This is just more data point to reinforce (like we should have to )to those still in denial that racism still exists.

  • Marquita Bloodworth

    It’s so funny how people are so quick to judge and jump on things they don’t agree with because of there followership and close minded thinking. Dude sounds like he already has hypertension from his explosive comments! As for you, I am in awe of your rawness to reveal such a personal experience, it takes courage. I lucked up on this sight by having an angry black woman moment, lucky me. :)

  • Knitter

    My heart goes out to you that you had to receive this very violent, hateful message, especially in response to sharing what was a vulnerable personal account of a difficult experience. I admire your courage and hold out hope that we can all heal ignorance and hate through openness and love.

  • As a New Zealand friend always signs off her letters, Zen hugs. May the coming year be a vast improvement over 2011 for you.

  • Jennifer

    I’m so sorry that you had to endure such a heart-wrenching experience — and sickened by the fact that some random asshole used it as an excuse to fling his filthy hatred at you. I’m so, so sorry. I’ve learned a tremendous amount from reading your blog, and I am in awe of your bravery, your honesty, your patience, and your intelligence. Thank you for telling your stories.

  • No one deserves to have those kinds of ignorant, hateful things said about them. I am glad you called this jerk out on their terrible comments.

  • tinfoil hattie

    I’m really sorry about this. It is absolutely horrific. I salute your patience and yes, your bravery, for continuing in the face of such hatred.


    “Hi, John”

  • Cat Heath

    Hello, it’s my first time reading your blog. The account of your abortion that you wrote on Salon was on my friend feed on FB today and after reading about what happened to you, the ensuing nastiness with Jill Stanek, and you having to move, I wanted to see how you were doing.

    Sadly I see that you are still taking fire for that piece. It disgusts me that that is the case. People like Cameron Baird and Jill Stanek seem to be so devoid of all compassion and filled with hate that I wonder how they can truly consider themselves to be pro-life. They don’t seem to care about life one jot once it has left the womb.

    I hope that in spite of these awful messages you keep getting, you and your family are doing well. Thank you for having the courage to write about your experience on Salon.

    Best wishes and strength to you and yours,

    Cat Heath