Comments on: On Being A Black Woman and Happy With It http://theangryblackwoman.com/2010/06/14/on-being-a-black-woman-and-happy-with-it/ Race, Politics, Gender, Sexuality, Anger Sun, 12 Feb 2012 18:46:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: HC http://theangryblackwoman.com/2010/06/14/on-being-a-black-woman-and-happy-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-54963 HC Sat, 14 Aug 2010 00:49:03 +0000 http://theangryblackwoman.com/?p=1505#comment-54963 Buckets - you're right. Not one black woman exists that is good enough for you. We have the wrong standards, perpetuate self-destructive mistaken choices, and we don't know how to look inside ourselves and SEE the flaws that you're so highly aware of. We think TOO highly of ourselves (which, somehow, is a problem for you) and we're hypocrites. And not a single one of us (based on your words) has any understanding of true value - yourself. Aren't you glad there's not a single one of us in your life? You don't have to put up with any of that mess. Buckets – you’re right. Not one black woman exists that is good enough for you. We have the wrong standards, perpetuate self-destructive mistaken choices, and we don’t know how to look inside ourselves and SEE the flaws that you’re so highly aware of.
We think TOO highly of ourselves (which, somehow, is a problem for you) and we’re hypocrites. And not a single one of us (based on your words) has any understanding of true value – yourself.

Aren’t you glad there’s not a single one of us in your life? You don’t have to put up with any of that mess.

]]> By: HC http://theangryblackwoman.com/2010/06/14/on-being-a-black-woman-and-happy-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-54955 HC Fri, 13 Aug 2010 23:20:59 +0000 http://theangryblackwoman.com/?p=1505#comment-54955 I didn't make fun of ANYone. And neither did my sisters, nor my cousins. We'd have had our hides tanned by our caribbean parents! What aren't there any female nerds 'round your way? I was one - and I've met plenty of others. I won't claim the type of women you've met don't exist. But YES, they are a SUBset of the whole of us. Something's wrong with the direction of your gaze. I didn’t make fun of ANYone. And neither did my sisters, nor my cousins. We’d have had our hides tanned by our caribbean parents!
What aren’t there any female nerds ’round your way? I was one – and I’ve met plenty of others. I won’t claim the type of women you’ve met don’t exist. But YES, they are a SUBset of the whole of us.
Something’s wrong with the direction of your gaze.

]]> By: HC http://theangryblackwoman.com/2010/06/14/on-being-a-black-woman-and-happy-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-54954 HC Fri, 13 Aug 2010 23:09:45 +0000 http://theangryblackwoman.com/?p=1505#comment-54954 The problem isn't your describing your life experiences - it's your assessment of the author as a money hungry, and social climbing. And using the word 'you' instead of 'they'. You have no prospects cause you won't act like a nigga? So can I read into that and say that's because you've narrowed YOUR choices to women with a particular appearance and age and have dismissed any of us black females that don't fit that mold? Can I say you're prob one of those looking only at the light-skinned, slender, weave wearing or naturally straighter haired black women that Hollywood accepts more readily into their fold? I know too many black women who don't need and can't hang with a 'nigga'. And yes - a woman of ANY age can continuously 'discover' herself. The problem isn’t your describing your life experiences – it’s your assessment of the author as a money hungry, and social climbing. And using the word ‘you’ instead of ‘they’.
You have no prospects cause you won’t act like a nigga? So can I read into that and say that’s because you’ve narrowed YOUR choices to women with a particular appearance and age and have dismissed any of us black females that don’t fit that mold? Can I say you’re prob one of those looking only at the light-skinned, slender, weave wearing or naturally straighter haired black women that Hollywood accepts more readily into their fold?
I know too many black women who don’t need and can’t hang with a ‘nigga’. And yes – a woman of ANY age can continuously ‘discover’ herself.

]]> By: gingergal http://theangryblackwoman.com/2010/06/14/on-being-a-black-woman-and-happy-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-53684 gingergal Sun, 11 Jul 2010 23:28:08 +0000 http://theangryblackwoman.com/?p=1505#comment-53684 BTW, I forgot to mention that I've been reading the Angry Black Women blog for a couple of years and that I've always enjoyed coming here to read everything on it---this is my first post--yay! I especially enjoyed the blog about the White Savior meme in films like AVATAR. Also, there's this new book called I DIDN'T WORK THIS HARD JUST TO GET MARRIED that all of you on this blog should check---it's about sisters remaining single, their reasons why, and why they're come to love it. BTW, I forgot to mention that I’ve been reading the Angry Black Women blog for a couple of years and that I’ve always enjoyed coming here to read everything on it—this is my first post–yay! I especially enjoyed the blog about the White Savior meme in films like AVATAR. Also, there’s this new book called I DIDN’T WORK THIS HARD JUST TO GET MARRIED that all of you on this blog should check—it’s about sisters remaining single, their reasons why, and why they’re come to love it.

]]> By: gingergal http://theangryblackwoman.com/2010/06/14/on-being-a-black-woman-and-happy-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-53682 gingergal Sun, 11 Jul 2010 23:23:43 +0000 http://theangryblackwoman.com/?p=1505#comment-53682 @bucketlist I'm a sister and I actually agree with you about how some sisters have some truly f***ed-up issues when it comes to men and how to treat them. For example, I have a roommate who is narcissistic as hell and thinks the whole damn world revolves around her---she gets on my nerves with that BS---as if she's the queen and everybody around her is supposed to just automatically serve her her ass on command. Never mind that she's a broke-ass, recovering ex-drug addict who can't be bothered to get a job because she's used to men taking care of her, she thinks she is the s**t for whatever the reason. I went the hell off on her a couple of nights because the room was burning up and she was too damn selfish to share a fan with me and another roommate. Anyway, my point is, before I started venting, was that I know how some sisters can act a damn fool and act as if a man owes them something just for existing. However, you came at the ladies on this blog with some nasty assumptions of your own, which was just wrong as hell--you really got off on the wrong foot. Not ALL sisters want a rich brother to scheme on---maybe that's the kind of sisters YOU know, but to come on here and accuse women you don't even know of being gold-diggers and all of that is total and complete BS. It sounds like you're been going out with the wrong kind of women and that you need to start looking for one that you have more in common with. But,anyway, I'm probably wasting my breath since more than likely,you won't come back to this blog for a followup. @bucketlist

I’m a sister and I actually agree with you about how some sisters have some truly f***ed-up issues when it comes to men and how to treat them. For example, I have a roommate who is narcissistic as hell and thinks the whole damn world revolves around her—she gets on my nerves with that BS—as if she’s the queen and everybody around her is supposed to just automatically serve her her ass on command. Never mind that she’s a broke-ass, recovering ex-drug addict who can’t be bothered to get a job because she’s used to men taking care of her, she thinks she is the s**t for whatever the reason. I went the hell off on her a couple of nights because the room was burning up and she was too damn selfish to share a fan with me and another roommate.

Anyway, my point is, before I started venting, was that I know how some sisters can act a damn fool and act as if a man owes them something just for existing. However, you came at the ladies on this blog with some nasty assumptions of your own, which was just wrong as hell–you really got off on the wrong foot. Not ALL sisters want a rich brother to scheme on—maybe that’s the kind of sisters YOU know, but to come on here and accuse women you don’t even know of being gold-diggers and all of that is total and complete BS. It sounds like you’re been going out with the wrong kind of women and that you need to start looking for one that you have more in common with. But,anyway, I’m probably wasting my breath since more than likely,you won’t come back to this blog for a followup.

]]> By: A. http://theangryblackwoman.com/2010/06/14/on-being-a-black-woman-and-happy-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-53581 A. Thu, 08 Jul 2010 18:23:52 +0000 http://theangryblackwoman.com/?p=1505#comment-53581 Hey pal. Take a fucking hike. You know, when a black woman states that she's pleased with herself, we clearly think that we're "God's Gift to Humanity." You think that you treat people with respect - I think that you're smoking crack and you're just a sorry piece of shit that thinks that a woman respecting you is equivalent with coddling your sorry ass. Hey pal.

Take a fucking hike. You know, when a black woman states that she’s pleased with herself, we clearly think that we’re “God’s Gift to Humanity.”

You think that you treat people with respect – I think that you’re smoking crack and you’re just a sorry piece of shit that thinks that a woman respecting you is equivalent with coddling your sorry ass.

]]> By: GlamGyrl http://theangryblackwoman.com/2010/06/14/on-being-a-black-woman-and-happy-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-53449 GlamGyrl Mon, 05 Jul 2010 00:46:54 +0000 http://theangryblackwoman.com/?p=1505#comment-53449 Unfortunately, the sick, racist denigration of Black women is increasing in the media. I personally know attractive, sweet, smart BW who choose to be single rather than settle for a self-hating BM who stereotypes BW and uses how European-looking a woman's skintone/facial features are to choose a date. The happiness of no woman is dependent on a man. Women live full lives and help each other despite the racist pea-brains of this world. Unfortunately, the sick, racist denigration of Black women is increasing in the media. I personally know attractive, sweet, smart BW who choose to be single rather than settle for a self-hating BM who stereotypes BW and uses how European-looking a woman’s skintone/facial features are to choose a date. The happiness of no woman is dependent on a man. Women live full lives and help each other despite the racist pea-brains of this world.

]]> By: eshowoman http://theangryblackwoman.com/2010/06/14/on-being-a-black-woman-and-happy-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-53448 eshowoman Sun, 04 Jul 2010 23:49:28 +0000 http://theangryblackwoman.com/?p=1505#comment-53448 Wow! I think black woman have a right to be angry. We also need to mourn the loss of so many black men, who have turned their anger towards those who give them life, support them and have gone without for them. This is painful stuff and we should have the right to go through all the stages of loss and come out the other end with love and acceptance for ourselves and those who truly love us. We have passed the tipping point and sadly many of us have to make this journey that started in the 15th century. I am doing dealing with it by writing my blog the Angry Black Woman Watch on a daily basis. I was only going to write about the recent bizarre emphasis on single, educated black women and found that I have much more to say. I try to deconstruct the stereotypes, honor black women and wag my finger at men who obsessed with non-black women all with a sense of frustration and a great deal of humor. Ignore bucket. Black men have to deal with their own anger and hatred, we cannot help them at the expense of our own health, well being and sanity. I like this blog and come visit me sometime at www.abww.wordpress.com. ~Esho Wow! I think black woman have a right to be angry. We also need to mourn the loss of so many black men, who have turned their anger towards those who give them life, support them and have gone without for them. This is painful stuff and we should have the right to go through all the stages of loss and come out the other end with love and acceptance for ourselves and those who truly love us. We have passed the tipping point and sadly many of us have to make this journey that started in the 15th century. I am doing dealing with it by writing my blog the Angry Black Woman Watch on a daily basis. I was only going to write about the recent bizarre emphasis on single, educated black women and found that I have much more to say. I try to deconstruct the stereotypes, honor black women and wag my finger at men who obsessed with non-black women all with a sense of frustration and a great deal of humor.
Ignore bucket. Black men have to deal with their own anger and hatred, we cannot help them at the expense of our own health, well being and sanity. I like this blog and come visit me sometime at http://www.abww.wordpress.com.
~Esho

]]> By: tanyad http://theangryblackwoman.com/2010/06/14/on-being-a-black-woman-and-happy-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-52972 tanyad Sun, 20 Jun 2010 14:07:01 +0000 http://theangryblackwoman.com/?p=1505#comment-52972 I'm so glad I didn't keep responding to that fool. I noticed he only responded in ways to keep the argument going rather than to actually have some discourse with the folks here. I'm glad to be out of the dating pool if such quality finds as this one are out there. I swear I'm sick of people who act as if Black on Black love is some relic that needs to be hunted down on a National Geographic special and its suddenly the hot thing because of the First Family. Black folks in love is nothing new and it will keep going as long as we live, and not let fools like bucket keep talking that crazy ish'. Rock on ladies, do the damn thing! I’m so glad I didn’t keep responding to that fool. I noticed he only responded in ways to keep the argument going rather than to actually have some discourse with the folks here. I’m glad to be out of the dating pool if such quality finds as this one are out there.

I swear I’m sick of people who act as if Black on Black love is some relic that needs to be hunted down on a National Geographic special and its suddenly the hot thing because of the First Family. Black folks in love is nothing new and it will keep going as long as we live, and not let fools like bucket keep talking that crazy ish’.

Rock on ladies, do the damn thing!

]]> By: Hodan http://theangryblackwoman.com/2010/06/14/on-being-a-black-woman-and-happy-with-it/comment-page-1/#comment-52861 Hodan Wed, 16 Jun 2010 15:30:57 +0000 http://theangryblackwoman.com/?p=1505#comment-52861 Is there a particular reason many of you are engaging in a dialogue with a person full of hate for women, let along black women? Its time for black women to stop discussing, discoursing and negotiating with racist minded black men with inferiority complex who have so much hate and disregard for black women. Ignore this person and let's stick to an environment free of hate. I'll suggest people follow the advice by the amazing Khadija: http://sojournerspassport.com/take-your-walking-papers-and-flee/ Is there a particular reason many of you are engaging in a dialogue with a person full of hate for women, let along black women? Its time for black women to stop discussing, discoursing and negotiating with racist minded black men with inferiority complex who have so much hate and disregard for black women. Ignore this person and let’s stick to an environment free of hate. I’ll suggest people follow the advice by the amazing Khadija:

http://sojournerspassport.com/take-your-walking-papers-and-flee/

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