Comments on: Dear Father http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/06/22/dear-father/ Race, Politics, Gender, Sexuality, Anger Wed, 23 May 2012 23:58:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Nisi Shawl http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/06/22/dear-father/comment-page-1/#comment-13948 Nisi Shawl Fri, 10 Jul 2009 06:31:38 +0000 http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/06/22/dear-father/#comment-13948 What own sons? What own sons?

]]> By: Trinidad. Adventist. Gay?! http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/06/22/dear-father/comment-page-1/#comment-13930 Trinidad. Adventist. Gay?! Thu, 09 Jul 2009 17:01:59 +0000 http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/06/22/dear-father/#comment-13930 Do you think that your attitude towards your Dad can have any effect on your own sons? Do you think that your attitude towards your Dad can have any effect on your own sons?

]]> By: Iyawo Aganyu http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/06/22/dear-father/comment-page-1/#comment-13441 Iyawo Aganyu Wed, 24 Jun 2009 21:10:48 +0000 http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/06/22/dear-father/#comment-13441 Alafia Nisi, Big ups from the Ile for your blogging...I'm lovin it. And yes this year for the first time ever in my adult life, I actually thought of my father on Father's day and of forgiveness. Not sure if I'm ready, my pops is the kind of dude that likes to show up for my accomplishments--graduation from high school, college, graduate school--then disappears for years. He likes to tell others how proud he is of me, but never directly to me. As a Black Two-Spirited, Dyke, Lesbian, woman I too missed having a full time Father or part time or 3/4 time in my life, like I would fantasize about him teaching me how to work on cars, or taking me fishing...those "traditional" boy things. The little tomboy in me missed that and still does.... Alafia Nisi,
Big ups from the Ile for your blogging…I’m lovin it. And yes this year for the first time ever in my adult life, I actually thought of my father on Father’s day and of forgiveness.
Not sure if I’m ready, my pops is the kind of dude that likes to show up for my accomplishments–graduation from high school, college, graduate school–then disappears for years. He likes to tell others how proud he is of me, but never directly to me. As a Black Two-Spirited, Dyke, Lesbian, woman I too missed having a full time Father or part time or 3/4 time in my life, like I would fantasize about him teaching me how to work on cars, or taking me fishing…those “traditional” boy things. The little tomboy in me missed that and still does….

]]> By: Nisi Shawl http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/06/22/dear-father/comment-page-1/#comment-13402 Nisi Shawl Tue, 23 Jun 2009 22:27:03 +0000 http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/06/22/dear-father/#comment-13402 Thanks, Jennifer. I'm so glad Tempest invited me. Erin, I have heard tell of statistics that prove that men are less likely to leave a marriage when at least one of the offspring is male. (Not sure where, now....) That makes the timing of your dad's departure doubly hard to comprehend. Sorry you had to go through that mess. You, too QoT and Tanya D. Thanks, Jennifer. I’m so glad Tempest invited me.

Erin, I have heard tell of statistics that prove that men are less likely to leave a marriage when at least one of the offspring is male. (Not sure where, now….) That makes the timing of your dad’s departure doubly hard to comprehend. Sorry you had to go through that mess. You, too QoT and Tanya D.

]]> By: Jennifer Gandin Le http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/06/22/dear-father/comment-page-1/#comment-13386 Jennifer Gandin Le Tue, 23 Jun 2009 13:36:01 +0000 http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/06/22/dear-father/#comment-13386 <i>Can anger be sad? Can anger be dry? Can anger be charcoal? Can it burn twice?</i> These words are so powerfully beautiful that they made my heart skip a beat. I am so glad that you're blogging here. Can anger be sad? Can anger be dry? Can anger be charcoal? Can it burn twice?

These words are so powerfully beautiful that they made my heart skip a beat. I am so glad that you’re blogging here.

]]> By: QoT http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/06/22/dear-father/comment-page-1/#comment-13377 QoT Tue, 23 Jun 2009 09:43:13 +0000 http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/06/22/dear-father/#comment-13377 Never have met my bio-dad. Father's Day for me is about the men who actually bothered to participate in my upbringing. Definitely used to be angry, but now just ... don't care, though I'd like to know if I have any random half-siblings out there. Never have met my bio-dad. Father’s Day for me is about the men who actually bothered to participate in my upbringing. Definitely used to be angry, but now just … don’t care, though I’d like to know if I have any random half-siblings out there.

]]> By: Erin http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/06/22/dear-father/comment-page-1/#comment-13352 Erin Mon, 22 Jun 2009 18:52:17 +0000 http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/06/22/dear-father/#comment-13352 I was also raised by a single mother; my father left when I was 3, immediately after my brother was born, leaving behind 3 kids and a wife who had barely graduated from high school. I was also raised by a single mother; my father left when I was 3, immediately after my brother was born, leaving behind 3 kids and a wife who had barely graduated from high school.

]]> By: Tanya D http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/06/22/dear-father/comment-page-1/#comment-13346 Tanya D Mon, 22 Jun 2009 12:05:13 +0000 http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/06/22/dear-father/#comment-13346 Checking in from Chicago. I don't know much about the man except that he's older than my mother, there's still indecision regarding him leaving because he found out I was on the way or if my mother's family deemed him too poor a man to marry. Either way, I'm not longer angry but I am bitter... Checking in from Chicago. I don’t know much about the man except that he’s older than my mother, there’s still indecision regarding him leaving because he found out I was on the way or if my mother’s family deemed him too poor a man to marry.

Either way, I’m not longer angry but I am bitter…

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