I’m Not The Doctor
I get a lot of emails from the Contact Me tab. Mainly I am happy to get them because I love email and emailing people. I don’t always get to answer everything because, as I said, I get a lot. But there are certain types of emails that I get that confuse me and make me wonder why the parties involved are asking me these questions.
The main one I really can’t figure out is why folks email me for relationship advice. It happens at least every other week. I get letters from women who have horrid boyfriends who are black and they wonder if they should stay to support the bruthas. I get black men asking me why they should date black women when white women are nicer. I get people of both sexes and all ethnicities asking me how to deal with problems that arise, mainly from racial tension. And other stuff. Really.
Now, aside from the black guys wondering why they should date black women stupidity, I rarely know what to say to these people. Not that I don’t want to help, but I am no relationship expert. Hell, I’m not even in one at the moment and don’t plan to be (my standards are incredibly high and not many can live up to them). The few relationships I’ve had were crap, including one with a white dude who was racist (sadly) and I was too young to understand that this was his problem. So I’m really, really not the person to ask about these things.
I feel bad because I would like to help people out, but my advice will be based on nothing. Well, maybe it’ll be based on what I learned from watching Flavor of Love, but that’s really not helpful to anyone, ever.
So the long and short of it is: please don’t ask me for relationship advice. Not because I don’t want to help, but because I can’t.