Comments on: Thoughts on the whole racism = prejudice + power thing

By: m Andrea

m Andrea — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 21:23:39 +0000

Sorry, I should have said

The “power of privilege” only comes into play if the person gets caught for the harm they caused.

By: m Andrea

m Andrea — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 21:22:06 +0000

This was interesting, thank you. I see the link for that other post, but I just wanted to say that hate is not dependent upon power. You can hate someone and do them harm without having power over them. The “power of privilege” only comes into play if the person gets caught.

By: Angel H.

Angel H. — Sat, 29 Sep 2007 00:30:14 +0000

Amber, I’m so glad that things worked out with your friend. I’m especially glad that by sitting down and talking to her that you realize that it’s not always a “black & white” thing.

I wish you both all the best.

By: Ico

Ico — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 02:59:09 +0000

It sounds like you two got a lot of things out in the open. Glad to hear it. =) Keep being there to listen and understand. I think as long as you are honest and kind, she’ll see that and you can build back that trust in one another.

By: Amber

Amber — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 01:46:53 +0000

yeah my friend and I had a deep talk today =/
I had broght some food into a back room where we were working she was talking on her cell to someone she said to me “girl where did you get that food”
i replied “all you people are asking me that!”
i even said it with a smug/smile look.
she told her friend on the phone “oh i guess she is referring to colored folks by saying you people”
and so after she got of the phone i sat her down and we talked a long while ,i told her you people ment my friends her and my other friend had both said hey were did ya get ur food lol.
so she made a joke oh ur friend is black too aint she (and she was joking cuz my other friend i was referring to was white) anyways she said when she hears the phrase “you people” from a white person that ,that automatically makes her think they are referring to blacks? and so then i just flat out told her i said look you need to relize that RACE does not matter to me I am not ONE Of those kinda ppl.
you can always come to me etc I am and will always remain the same.
You see me as ur work associate im sure but I see you as more then that my friend too.
Then i brought up what she said last week about trusting white ppl,she said what she ment is she didnt trust ppl in general and has always had real issues with trusting ppl.
i shook my head and listened to her ,she said she had been really burnt by an older lady she had given money too in the past and that ever since then she has been really distant in trusting and confiding in ppl.
so listened and told her i understand and i do……
trust is something earned… regardless of our outside appearence and michael if you believe wtever ur reading you are brainwashed dear.
Folks can always change,without change we would have never had advanced technologies.
WE WOULD NEVER EVOLVE we would stay the same..

By: the angry black woman

the angry black woman — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 15:30:16 +0000

Yes, Michael is banned. and now I’m pissed. see latest post.

By: Ico

Ico — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 15:13:45 +0000

Whoops, I meant that post to be a reply to Michael, not to you, Nojojojo. =D Though that’s probably pretty clear.

Amber, glad to hear you’re going to try to work things out with her and be understanding. =) Good luck. I’m sure things will work out just fine.

By: Ico

Ico — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 15:05:55 +0000

Friendship between races is a tough road as long as people like you make assumptions about racial hatred underlying all interactions and relationships. It boggles my mind that you can’t see the fact that what YOU are saying (“blacks are blacks first” and cannot “simply be friends with whites”) is as problematic as what you criticized Amber’s friend for. You are saying the *same exact thing* she did (black people can’t trust white people as friends), but backwards. And you are not even saying it as a member of a race that faces systematic oppression, but as a privileged individual who benefits from that oppression.

You can’t see your own hypocrisy or your own privilege. What is there to discuss?

By: nojojojo

nojojojo — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 14:46:37 +0000

I’ve had enough of this. Michael, you have been disemvoweled. I’ve also warned ABW that you’re back, despite the fact that you apparently said you were done with this site. Wow, a racist *and* a liar. Go figure.

I suspect ABW is planning to ban you, but it’s her site and I’m just a guest editor, so that’s her call.

By: Michael

Michael — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 14:01:47 +0000

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