Comments on: Mamas, Don’t Let Your Daughters Grow Up to Hate Kinky

By: Mamas, Don’t Let Your Daughters Grow Up to Hate Kinky | Corner Beauty Shop

Fri, 03 Oct 2008 02:35:26 +0000

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By: Rhonda

Rhonda — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 17:29:36 +0000

Chemicals are definitely damaging to our fragile hair.

in 2000 I had a co-worker who constantly complained that her hair “wouldn’t grow”…she had a perm, and it did appear that it didn’t grow. But she had also colored her hair auburn, and you could see new growth. Problem was it never was able to reach any kind of length, because it was constantly breaking.

I told her if she got got rid cut off the perm, stopped coloring, and wore it natural, that it would grow. Poor sista was scared to death…but she did it. Shortly after sporting her new ‘do, she went to a loctician and had it loc’d.

Her hair is absolutely GORGEOUS! Her beautifully crimped crimson locs hang just past her shoulders. She is absolutely thrilled with her hair. And I’m pleased she’s pleased.

I gave up the perm in 1997; had it cut out by my stylist (who spent the better part of ten minutes trying to convince me that I really didn’t want to do that). When my close cropped hair begain to grow out, I didn’t loc, but the “kinky twist” hairstyle has been my signature hairstyle ever since that time. My own hair is about about 8-9 inches long, but when I want to make a bolder statement, I’ll have my stylist braid in kinky hair, for a longer, wilder look.

My journey back to natural hair was an easy one, because my mother did not use relaxers and hot combs were not used in my or my sisters’ hair. I made the decision at age 16 to get a perm. My mother was disappointed, but she allowed me to make the decision.

In ’97, something strange happened to me…I was sitting down in my livingroom massaging my scalp, and as I was massaging, I became aware of the new growth…and that new hair felt…good. I decided then that I wanted my natural hair back, and have never regretted the decision.

By: MeMoo

MeMoo — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 05:05:46 +0000

no perm
yes,
no hot comb?
almost unimaginable.

When I was growing up, I was not allowed to perm my hair. It was more out of the religious conviction that made my dad forbid me from wearing pants around him or makeup and what promoted him to get angry when mom wanted to wear makeup, but the truth is, it wasn’t based on afrocentricity.
I remember my mom making me wear braids, and I did so until I went to college. It was so easy, but my hair is light.

now,as much as I could not stand my dads strictness ( or religious frigity) I am glad I never got my hair permed. I got to know what my hair was REALLY like. I am still trying to find commercial mainstream products for my hair. I read horror stories form other women and I decided I would rather learn how to deal with my hair and how to style it than perm it. I can go back and forth and a blow dryer/hot comb allows this for me ( althought, I shun heat, its just not healthy for hair).

By: Love Your Body Day « The Real Potato.

Love Your Body Day « The Real Potato. — Sat, 23 Feb 2008 23:10:15 +0000

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By: No More Chemicals « Ramblings in Space and Time

No More Chemicals « Ramblings in Space and Time — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 18:23:25 +0000

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By: Get your corporate ladder off my afro! « open vein, write story

Get your corporate ladder off my afro! « open vein, write story — Mon, 15 Oct 2007 05:44:03 +0000

[...] black women in America are practically BORN with a complex about their hair. The Angry Black Woman wrote a great post about this. It’s hard enough to deal with such naturally beautiful, but naturally difficult, hair. Do we [...]

By: CroMagnon

CroMagnon — Wed, 03 Oct 2007 23:41:33 +0000

I love they way my friend, Valerie, looks. She is a black woman whose family came to this country by way of the West Indies. She wears her hair in a short afro; has huge, expressive black eyes; a generous, very cute nose; large, sensuous lips; high cheekbones similar to Angela Bassett’s; dark skin with a reddish tint; and a huge, toothy smile. This Latino male thinks she and countless other black women who look a lot like her are beautiful by any definition of beauty. So there!

By: Love Your Body Day « The Real Potato.

Love Your Body Day « The Real Potato. — Wed, 03 Oct 2007 21:51:10 +0000

By: Renee

Renee — Sun, 16 Sep 2007 03:46:37 +0000

I love my mom’s hair which she has always worn natural. I envy her and my best friend who wears twists, etc. I wish I couold do that to my hair. I . . .I feel that natural black hair is still demonize, like in that hair advert in the Black magazines, which made me not buy Ebony btw. I wish that women could just love what God gave them, and I include myself in this. I love my skin, my lips, my nose and my huge brown eyes but I don’t know about the hair. For me, and both parents are black, it was entrance into the world of my friends. I hate going to get the shampoo in the “white section” and being told by someone that I am in the wrong section, being constantly asked if I am mixed or guided to the right section. I use Aussie, and anyone who thinks that having naturally straight hair is “easy” is nuts. For me natural, locs, etc. are beauty and unattainable for me. My mother represents this as does my friend.

By: Criticizing the Critical « The Angry Black Woman

Criticizing the Critical « The Angry Black Woman — Wed, 29 Aug 2007 12:01:22 +0000

[...] under Angry at Women , Angry at Black People On the Kids Hair post, La – msviswan made this comment: …it also seems black women with natural hair are putting emphasis on black women who prefer [...]